Posts Tagged ‘Domestic Abuse’

“​Domestic abuse is any type of controlling, bullying, threatening or violent behaviour between people in a relationship. But it isn’t just physicalviolence – domestic abuse includes emotional, physical, sexual, financial or psychological abuse. Abusive behaviour can occur in any relationship.” – NSPCC

I have heard arguments on why it should be considered an abuse only if the victim is either female or a child. That’s quite laughable! Men are not androids, they too can be abused. This ideology is understandable, children and women are not known to always posses the strength to protect themselves, just not applicable in every scenario. 

I personally cannot fight to save my life. If I am in a physical abuse situation, my flight will be comical. I cannot tolerate any type of violence; emotional, verbal, physical…you name it.

What terrifies me is, most people being abused are not aware of it. They give different excuses about their abuse situation and even defend the abuser. This is a very problematic issue that everyone should be vigilant and protective of themselves. 

It is never alright to be subjected to any type of pain or misery. No-one can care for you better than yourself. Please, let your reason for allowing yourself be abused not be love either. People use “love” alot as an excuse to domestically abuse another person or the abusee claims love wouldnt allow them leave. 

For starters, Love isn’t a feeling, just incase you are basing your argument on how you feel. Love is expressed through actions, and if the action you are receiving is punches and slaps or insults and intimidation, well then you be the judge and tell me what those actions are synonym to.

From the definition of Domestic abuse stated above, if you can check any of those actions in any relationship you are in, you are being abused or you are abusing someone.

The first step to take as a victim of abuse is to create distance. Stay away from your abuser, then make a plan. If you are married or live together please take a trip to visit family. But you have to create physical distance.

All situations are not the same, so there isn’t a manual to dealing with domestic abuse. If there is an actual threat or physical hitting, I would recommend placing  a complaint with the police. If you are in one of those countries with corrupt police officers, let your family and friends be aware. Also inform your abuser that if anything happened to you s/he will be the first person of Interest.

The most important thing I would like to share is, Love yourself enough to know when to walk away. We live only once and no-one is responsible for your happiness but you.

Xoxo 😘