I genuinely would like to know as that is how long I have not blogged.So feel free to pop into the comment section and share.

As for me, it’s been an interesting 3 years. Let me give a summary in this post and expand further in other posts.

I have been pregnant, had a baby (who is turning 2 years on Monday), been a stay-at-home-mum, started a business, lost my social life and counted every pound in my  account daily  😁.

Wow! I actually summarised my last 3 years in a sentence.

It’s been a challenging yet productive couple of years. I have found myself missing my youthful days alot. Found myself wondering if things would be better if I made different choices. Found myself feeling lost and alone despite the amazing family I have. I have panicked about my future. Wondered If it’s too late to achieve some dreams. Looked in the mirror and not felt pretty; trust me I never had to worry about my looks almost all my life till recently. 

In summary, I have had to grow up a lot in the last 3 years. Sit back and enjoy the ride as I break it down for you. From marriage, to pregnancy, being a mum, starting a business, getting conscious about my looks, need for validation, loneliness, fear of failure….relationship with the world and the people in it. You name it.

Feels great to be back!😉

There is a reason why your spouse should be your best friend.

People have best friends because they need that one person that will always be there for them no matter what. In reality such a person doesn’t exist. It would be great for such a person to exist, but we have accepted the ideology of creating something close in a person which we refer to as “best friend”.

After living in this world for a reasonable number of years, you realise that because someone is your perfect friend this moment does not translate in the person being there for you forever. People outgrow some friends, some just get estranged, others get weird and some  hardship of life gets to them. That innocent friendship once developed is quickly forgotten and the person becomes “someone you used to know”.

It is easy to struggle to say you don’t want to forget a friend, especially one that you have so much history with. But it is not completely in your hands to avoid broken relationships. You are just one factor in the relationship, your desire is not going to be the final result.

Why should your spouse be your best friend? Simple, when you marry a person, it is because you love each other and have chosen to spend the rest of your life with the person. Giving your soul and body to the person as marriage means becoming one with your spouse. So your spouse being your best friend translates to you trusting yourself. Trust the one person who has your best interest. Trusting the one person you would return home to after a long day. Trusting the one person you would procreate with. Trusting the one person you have to tolerate for the rest of your life. Trusting the one person whose success automatically translates to your success. Trusting the one person you consciously chose on earth to bond with.

Marriages are not seen to be this committed in this new generation as spouses no longer consider marriage a covenant,  this is a topic for another day…

Become best friends with your spouse today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I AM NIGERIAN, NOT AFRICAN

Posted: February 26, 2014 in Uncategorized

The World is truly ignorant about Africans/Blacks

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BRITISH: My name is John, I am from England.

FRENCH: I am Silvestre from France.

ITALIAN: Totti, Frencesco Totti, from Italy.

Note how none of these guys said EUROPEAN.

NIGERIAN: I am Abiodun Chkwuebuka Mohammed, from AFRICA.

The birth of social media has brought about lots of positive things. Vine and Keek in particular have produced some of the most hilarious short comedy clips of all time (I fit sidon three hours dey watch Keek videos, Don Jazzy self get some very funny ones). There’s this very popular guy, Chief Obi (mehn, that guy funny die. I dey watch him videos one night, na so I burst laugh wake my flat mates. The next morning them serve me letter straight. Them no tell me before I behave myself. To find house for this place na serious gbege mehn), he’s got some of the best short comedy clips, very talented young…

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We are gradually entering that time of the year when we start saying goodbye to the dark, gloomy, cold winter season by gradually breaking away from our ugg boots, thick woolly jackets and scarves. The metamorphosis into spring and out of summer are the two trickiest fashion times of the year, especially for those who are excited to experiment with new looks. Stores on the high-street have already kicked off with their spring season by displaying their 2014 spring collections which can be exhausting to keep up with. A good way to ensure you do not spend unreasonably is to engage in the “winter-summer combo” style. This will enable you to repeat winter outfits while preparing for summer as well.

The keys are to layer and to mix winter clothes with summer clothes. The other key is to not repeat any winter ensembles without finding ways to brighten up your winter outfits with a splash of colour. Think brightly coloured scarves over a black dress or a lightweight, colourful thick blouse under a leather jacket. That way you can add some visual interest without sacrificing the warmth. If you wear a suit or dress from the winter, wear summery shoes. If you wear a light top or dress you should leave the sandals in the closet, and instead wear your dark heavy shoes. Most of all, it is time to abolish the dark winter makeup and nail polish, accessories are the easiest and most subtle way to transition into a new season.

 Solid colours such as grey, black, navy and red work great for transitioning into the spring, also adding camel and brown colours to mix up with this season’s African inspired prints, bold print and metallic trends. On occasion, put on those favourite black heavy boots and pair them with a long floral skirt, top and light coloured jacket, otherwise, they will be at the back of the closet until September. Black tights with shorts, skirts or dresses is the perfect solution for when you are tired of wearing trousers, but it is still too chilly for bare legs. Because of the versatility, the abovementioned leather jacket is a go-to piece for transitioning between the seasons, it looks great over a turtleneck; the leather jacket gets an “A” for style and functionality. Toss on a t-shirt and either your winter pullover or coloured top and you have the favourite casual springtime look.

Layer, layer, layer!!! It makes a lot of sense, especially during this time of year. But the trick is to be funky, not frumpy. If you have a really cute red blazer and a slightly oversized sweater you can pair the two to create a really good look if you get the proportions right. So if you’re wearing a big sweater, make sure the jeans are a little form fitting so you don’t look like your clothes are wearing you.

Don’t try too hard to mix and match the two seasons. If the day is cold and you aren’t sure what to wear, layer your clothes with a slight eye towards a pop of colour, like a necklace or some great shoes. Also, if you find your own closet lacking, wear your winter outfit with the easy option of taking something off if the need arises. And for fashion’s sake, remember that summer will be here soon enough — absolutely no wearing flip flops with winter gloves, or your heaviest winter coat with a straw hat. Of course you wouldn’t do that anyway. Would you?

Flatter Your Body Not Faulter

Posted: January 28, 2014 in Fashion
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In a world of ever-changing trends, knowing what to wear can be a challenge. We all come in different shapes, fashion is all about dressing your body; how do we make sure we are wearing outfits that will flatter our unique body type? Getting dressed is a whole lot easier when you know what pieces work best for your shape. The key is to know your proportions and use fashion to accentuate your best features; and hide everything else!

First step is to know what type of body you have. There are different categories of classifying the shape of a woman, but the most common are; Apple, Rectangular, Pear, Hourglass and Wedge.

The Apple Shape

If you have this body type then you want to elongate your midsection and create the illusion of a smaller waist. You should also emphasize your legs, draw attention away from your waist and shoulders/arms, and draw attention to your neck (e.g. v-necks). Choose flared trousers over straight or skinny trousers, it helps balance out wide shoulders and/or a heavy upper body. If you don’t want to draw attention to your chest, avoid necklaces and wear chunky bangles instead. You should also wear plain colours up and go for patterned and colourful bottoms. For curves, handles, or lumps that you’d prefer to hide, wear solid dark colours over them.

The Rectangular Shape

In this body type, the waist is about the same as hips, more like a cylinder; if you have this body type, you can “pinch” your waist and exaggerate curves to avoid looking lanky or boyish. Opt for styles that fit closely at your middle but flare out at the bottom to create curves. Your best assets are your legs and arms and you want to create curves where they don’t necessarily exist. Go for ruffles and frills to add texture and volume to your figure. Steer clear of baggy clothes, dresses that are tight all over and anything too flowy or unstructured around the waist.

The Pear Shape

With this body type you should minimize attention on your lower half and focus attention upward. DO try a-line skirts which camouflage wider hips, experiment with light-coloured tops and dark-coloured bottoms for contrast. If you’re pear-shaped and you are short (or have short legs), wear straight-leg or slightly flared trousers with heels. Skinny trousers that hug your ankles can make your lower body take on the appearance of an upside-down triangle.

The Wedge Shape

This body shape features a broad chest and wide shoulders which are large in proportion to a narrow waist and hip. Accentuate your lower body while softening your shoulders and upper body; your asset is your legs. Avoid bright colours on bottom, spaghetti-strap and boat neckline tops. Do wear bright colours on bottom, wide-leg pants, full skirts, tops that call attention to your waistline and look for clothes that create the illusion of a waist.

The Hour Glass Shape

People with this body type have equal hip and bust measurements with a narrow waist; if you’re one of the lucky few with this body type, dress to flatter – not flatten your beautiful curves. Your shape is all about tastefully showing off those curves: not too baggy, not too tight.

No matter your body type, making your legs look longer is generally flattering!

This is one of those things that you probably thought happened only in movies. Think no further, it is real.

Some people might consider it “inappropriate” but what they don’t know is the couple getting on with it probably have no idea they can be heard.

Now handling it would require turning it into a joke by making assumptions about what is happening. If you are too stuck-up just play music to distract you, roll over and sleep. If you cannot sleep with music, put on safe sleeping ear buds and doze off.

I personally found it amusing; hearing the moaning and bed creeks, was the highlight of my day. I think I have a whole new respect for my neighbours ;-).

I know your first response will be for me to be applying for jobs and sign up to recruitment agencies. Way ahead of you there!

My degrees are quite remarkable and even I, am shocked It has been so difficult getting employed for so long. I am no space engineer or doctor but I do have a degree in Information Technology and Corporate Communications. I love to work, I have always worked 200% in the past. But now I think something in me has broken. I must give a negative vibe to employers now because I have not been hired for so long.

I know what I am good at and basically it would involve Communications and Project Management. Anyway, now I am lost and quite honestly upset and frustrated. At this point I would accept a PA or admin role if it’s handed to me. The world is so difficult in everything, that is why people have gone more selfish and inconsiderate because they believe they will survive only by this.